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I've started incorporating many of her ideas into our family life. This was my second book by Pantley and I was not at all disappointed. It's still a work in progress but I'm already seeing progress in how I interact with my children - particularly my six year old whom I but heads with more than I would like. Every bit as good as her No-Cry Sleep Solution, The No-Cry Discipline Solution is full of common sense techniques on how to gently and positively discipline your child without yelling, anger or hitting. The book is broken down into four segments: essential parenting attitudes, parenting skills and tools, how to manage your own anger, and solutions for your most common discipline problems. And just like the NCSS, I'm sure that the longer we use her techniques and they become second nature, things will only get better. If you want to arm yourself with the parenting skills designed to help you raise happy healthy kids, with none of the anger and resentment that many other techniques result in, you need not look further.
Elizabeth Pantly does an excellent job in providing parents examples with useful tools that not only will significantly reduce the amount of crying involved when raising children, but will also help them to focus on love and nurture. This is a well-written book that will no doubt become a handy manual for all parents. The chief technique, of course, is to unconditionally love your child and it follows that the child who feels loved will be a much more agreeable child. The techniques she presents allow parents to caution and specifically deal with their child to modify unwanted behaviors while establishing a strong and loving relationship. Jeffrey L. Fine, PhD, Psychologist: Author of: - "The Art of Conscious Parenting"
But it does work. (Yes, it was my fault that he was swearing. If jumping up and down, screaming, spanking, bribing, grounding, reward charting and other energy-draining methods don't seem to be having any effect, how can keeping your cool possibly work. Sometimes people think of "gentle discipline" as passive, permissive or "less-than", traditional authoritarian methods. Pantley's book starts by covering "Essential Parenting Attitudes" to help you think about what you are really trying to achieve outside of resolving the immediate problem. Don't worry, it is not too late. I had to reference this section last year when my almost-two year old started dropping f-bombs. The last section of the book covers common discipline problems such as biting, fighting, messiness and swearing and offers suggestions about how to implement gentle discipline in this instances.
Her suggestions worked very quickly with no drama or pain for either me or my son.This book is great to have as a reference for specific problems, but it is even better for new parents to read BEFORE they have any problems. The book doesn't stop there and leave you hanging in the theoretical, she covers skills and tools you can use to get through daily life with children and dramatically decrease the tears and anger from both you and your children. Approaching discipline with a long-term view instead of getting trapped in the instances of misbehavior will help you keep yourself in control, recognize a child's cues to head problems off before the situation is out of control and build age-appropriate routines to encourage the behavior you want to see. I meant to quit but multiple international moves and pregnancy nausea are not conducive to quitting, but hearing your two year old say,"WTF" makes it quite easy to go cold turkey). By staying calm in a situation, you are modeling self-discipline and can get control of the situation much easier and faster by not losing control of yourself. Also, throughout the book, stories from her own family and her test families provide real-life examples of successful implementation of the skills and tools that she covers in this book. More than likely, though, if you are looking at buying this book, you are already having problems. This book will help you develop a strategy for maintaining control of yourself, create routines that promote good behavior, fill your "parenting toolbox" with ideas and give you a place to turn when you need some help on a specific issue.
As an educator and author of Black Belt Parenting: The Art of Raising Children for Success, I can really appreciate the wisdom and tactics shared in this book. A must for all parents.Thank You.Black Belt Parenting
I love how it offers techniques to try to avoid problem situations in the first place. This is an awesome book. This book has tons of information and helpful ideas in an easy to read and understand format. I love the parent's comments. It's nice to know that other parents have been where I am and to read their stories is uplifting.
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